This month I thought I would talk about Pancakes – or more importantly the choices we can make…
My eldest daughter has recently made the transition to secondary school…or high school as it seems to be known now!
At 11, having been to a village primary school with a total of 76 pupils, a natural born worrier and hoping to grow up far too quickly, of she went with confidence. School is walkable from our home and so the first few days as overzealous mum, I walked with her….although where I could walk to became progressively further and further away from the school doors! Until after the first week my chaperone skills were made redundant.
Now about 4 to 5 weeks in, she’s had a few wobbles and melt downs announcing that she does not wish to grow up and would like to go back to primary school. On our weekly walk back from guides, quieter than usual, I enquired if she was ok….”I’m not sure how to explain it she said….it may sound a bit weird..the best way I can tell you is…”
“My life is like a pancake. When I was at primary school there was Nutella, lemon and sugar and I liked all of the fillings and you were there to help me choose. Now I’m at high school, there are loads of fillings and they tasted different and not quite right…..oh and if you want to you can use this with your clients!”
Wow…I was bowled over by her clarity in her analogy. It took me a couple of minutes then I smiled and said….
“So taking that on… What you now have is a choice of flavours to taste …some you will like and some you will not…it’s ok to taste different flavours and then choose which ones you want and like…….it’s about choice.”
She looked at me, smiled with what appeared to be relief.
A few days later, my daughter said she wasn’t feeling great and said that in her pancake there was Nutella and sugar and chilli! She really does not like chilli! So …we discussed what to do about the chilli and she was reminded that there is always a choice of the flavour combination is not working. Realising this she announced she was going to take out the chilli! Today…a calmer and smilier girl!
I’m sure there will be other flavour combinations which will work and which will taste horrid as she settles down into her big school and the turbulence of realising that there is a big world in which she fits and has choice of what flavour she wants in her pancake.
So…I wanted to share this with you for three reasons.
Firstly I’m proud of my daughter and her ability to process and find a way through what is a tough transition.
Secondly to remind you…me and all of us that there is simplicity in the fact that we can try different flavours, we can enjoy the ones we love, expand our repertoire and avoid the ones that leave a bitter taste. We have a choice and being brave and daring to choose will lead to many enjoyable and satisfying movements.
And thirdly because my daughter said I can share this!
What flavours of pancake do you enjoy?