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A More Confident You…

Monday, July 10th, 2017
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Delphinus tmc – Coaching, Psychotherapy, Training, Speaking

A more confident you comes from a combination of a positive mindset, positive feelings and belief in your abilities, skills and experience. Low confidence is a result of many things and can inhibit you, your business and your everyday. Confidence can increase and decrease, with some days being higher in confidence than others. Our aim is to support you to increase your confidence with consistency.

Join Vicky Bailey, Delphinus tmc, who will guide you through a workshop to make a difference to you. Leaving you with more knowledge and techniques to develop your confidence Vicky will explore…

· How to increase your self confidence

· Existing habits and behaviours hindering you

· How to use positive mindset

· Ways that work for you to move forward

Book your place today – *** EARLY BIRD OFFER *** Book before the end of July to take advantage of our early bird booking £40 +VAT. Prices after the 31st July are £50 +VAT.  Book your place today – https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/a-more-confident-you-tickets-35798216429

 

The Stories We Tell Ourselves

Monday, June 19th, 2017

As we get back to work after a weekend, the most popular question you will hear will be “how are you?”

Be honest, how often have you answered that question with “I’m fine” when inside you are anything but fine?

You are not alone, it is the answer we expect people to want to hear and resist the temptation to seek help.  Do people really want to hear “well actually I am not good??? Truthfully, we are not allowing others to help – how can they if they are not aware of how we are feeling.

 

Image result for our wholeness actually depends on the integration of all of our experiences including the falls.” brene brown

 

With mental health and wellbeing being a hot topic right now in the media, we thought we would take this opportunity to see how you deal with your emotions and resilience?  Do you ask for help or is it something you internalize?  We would love to hear your thoughts.

Do you notice responses from others?

We are so busy in our lives, how can we expect someone else to spot we are unhappy if we cannot spot the signs in others, or indeed ourselves!

Here is a little challenge for you – as you go through the day, take 5 minutes to consider your own emotions and then take another 5 minutes to see (how those emotions are playing out in how you are behaving). What difference does this make?

Empower Your Teams – Invest in Training

Tuesday, June 6th, 2017

For most businesses, now is the time to invest in staff training for the year ahead. No doubt you want to employ and retain the best staff so regular training is a must!

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Whilst job / technical training is vital to ensure you are keeping up with all the latest developments, have you considered the benefit of training your teams to improve how they work together, managing behaviours and boosting morale?

At Delphinus tmc we are passionate about helping business owners to see how effective teams can be if they are all working towards the same goal. No team will be a success unless there is an understanding about what the firm wants to achieve and how their individual skills and behaviours can impact each other.

A successful team = a successful business

Our 4 reasons why every team can benefit from training

Harmony – everyone is unique. We all act / interact differently when working on our own and working in a group. Team training can help break down the barriers to understanding different characteristics and methods to ensure the team is working as a whole.

Communication – whether the team is large or small, there needs to be good communication. Everyone needs to know their responsibilities and what is expected of them. If conflicts arise, good communication can often solve the issue before it gets out of hand.

Vision – If the business vision and values are clear, every team member can play their part in the success of the business. Training can highlight the goals and opportunities for the year ahead so that everyone is singing from the same hymn sheet. Think of a car journey, we all like to know where we are going and how we are going to get there!!!

Empowerment – the biggest impact we see through training is the empowerment of the team. When staff feel more supported they feel valued and this can bring higher motivation and more willingness to find new ways to ensure success for the business.

Results – working as part of a team will bring in a variety of results which will then empower the team to progress further. Training can facilitate more consistency of results and enhance team dynamics.

Over the years we have worked with a number of organisations to boost and motivate their teams, especially where there has been an element of change. We have seen first-hand the transition teams have gone through both individually and as a group – all for the betterment of the business.

Are you looking to build a winning team?

Are you curious to find out more about team training could be of benefit to your business– call 07786 936625 or email vicky@delphinustmc.co.uk

Everyone is talking about Mental Health and yet …..

Monday, March 27th, 2017

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Over the past 12 months there has been a large and very much-needed increase in awareness in the media for Mental Health in the UK.  Every week there are new articles & news stories that are promoted either online or in print media and the barriers to seeking support seem to be being broken down, albeit very slowly.

I was recently asked to write an article on mental health  – which was subsequently produced.  Unfortunately it was not printed. The editors enjoyed and liked it and wanted more tips and support writing into the article.  As you may appreciate the article, all be it receiving great feedback, did not get revised to give away more tips…..what it did was prompt my thinking towards what is it we really seem to want? The conclusion: a quick fix for as little investment of time and resource as possible.

As passionate as I am about mental health, emotional well-being and people being the best versions of themselves, this passion is underpinned by several beliefs, one being that if we can take responsibility we can create choice and in turn relieve our heightened states of stress.

Stress at Work

We are all aware of and band around the words wellbeing, mental health, emotional resilience…we all like to grow our knowledge and gain information, surround ourselves with facts and figures…notice in others if we feel they are not ok.  How often do we notice, take time and give ourselves a chance to notice our own emotional health.

4 out of 5 of us feel anxious, stressed, depressed or stuck at some point in our lives.  The impact can be and is significant on us.  We often have the answers inside and need the time, space and expertise to find them and move forward.  Our responsibility is to ourselves first and then those around us at work and home.  If we can do this at work for ourselves, colleagues and staff and at home for ourselves, family and friends, life suddenly frees up and we become more emotionally agile.

I have recently been working with a group of General Managers in the NHS, supporting them in an action learning group as part of their management training.  The group was fabulous and worked well together to support each other with some challenging day-to-day work issues.  The common themes were, stress and pressure of work load and time pressure.  The key challenge with this being these issues inhibited people fulfilling their jobs to the best of their capability and ability, and therefore not enjoying their work.  The group sessions were able to give them time and space to review challenges, expand their choices and thoughts on how to manage issues raised and support each other.

My reason for sharing this…we can look at stats, we can look at theory…the most powerful way of seeing peoples’ stress diminish is in action.

The feedback from the group was positive:

  • unanimously they agreed that they want to keep meeting beyond the project as the benefits for them were so impactful
  • knowing that they were not in isolation with some of their day-to-day challenges
  • realising that the benefit of coaching and learning sets to enable them to feel happier and less stressed
  • knowing that they were responsible for their own changes and that they had begun to make changes to support themselves at work, through gaining the support they need

“Whether mental distress is caused in work or out of work we spend nearly half our waking hours in work; because of this it makes sense to have a stronger, healthier and more emotionally resilient workplace.”

Paul Farmer – Chief Executive, Mind

We can take responsibility for ourselves and those around us.  Day to pressures can be managed and not result in stress.  When we think, feel and react at our best we perform well and in turn diminish stress.

Key steps towards looking after yourself:

  • Notice – what you need and be curious
  • Connect – take the time to listen to yourself and those around you
  • Be active – take up the challenge – once you know there is an issue, take action.
  • Take notice – be aware of your own and your colleagues behaviors
  • Keep learning – as mental health changes, make sure you have the skills to respond
  • Creativity and play – find creative ways to get you and your staff and colleagues to talk.

Enjoy being the best version of yourself as often as you choose to be.

Managing Change in the Workplace

Friday, August 19th, 2016

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People resist change often because the focus on what they are giving up or losing. Imagine if we embraced change and noticed what we can gain. Tony Robbins suggests, change is inevitable, progress is optional.

We all manage change everyday, so the real questions are how do we feel about managing change and how do we really handle change?

In recent times we have as a country witnessed significant political changes. These have had an impact on us all at a greater or lesser degree. Closer to home my daughter is transitioning from primary to secondary school – and in her world a massive change which has and will have its challenges. What changes are you experiencing at the moment and what is the impact of any resistance you may be feeling?

We are all creatures of habit. We function well when we know what is happening, where we are, our purpose and have clarity on the impact and benefits to us. If our equilibrium is challenged and we are unsure how something affects us or how it benefits us, we often find ourselves beyond our comfort zones.
To develop either as a business or person we need change and embrace a new normal to develop and succeed. We witness people’s reaction to this; they are often anxious, fearful, stressed, angry or demotivated and despondent. We very rarely see positive responses of opportunity or excitement at what the possibilities are from the changes they are experiencing. The other familiar response is that of blame. Some changes seem out of our influence and this can cause resentment. Our question is what can you take responsibility for in the situation? How will this support you through this change?

So how do we manage change to ensure we can have a choice and see our options…?

Key Principles

• Transparency
Often change parachutes into our day to day and happens so rapidly we do not have time to catch up. There is resistance of its impact. If we can see the change, know it’s happening, have information, gain knowledge and then realise how this will impact on our world, this often this softens the shock. A period of transition allows us to process what it means for us…which in turn allows us to reconcile the change into our day to day and realise a new normal.

• Communication
Being noticed, being spoken to and being involved and heard can help us to process any situation, particularly if we can see how a situation impacts on us and our options. Conversation seems to be replaced by emails and social media. Personal contact, conversation and time are fundamental to a successful transition and change.

• Reassurance
If we our equilibrium is knocked we can often feel out of our depth, in unknown territory, which then can lead to high anxiety, stress, fear, and disengagement. Personal contact, support and reassurance of the outcome in relation to our needs will again support the transition. It will build confidence in the process of the change and give opportunity for the new normal to feel and be gently introduced into our every day.

• Involvement
If we are involved in any change, decision to change and our thoughts and ideas taken onboard, this will support how we manage the transition. It does not guarantee our needs always met, it does support us to find options and choices in the changes happening.

Change will be a constant how we choose to support ourselves through it is the secret. Ask for the right support is crucial to a smooth transition towards the changes challenging you.

“Change is hard at first, messy in the middle and gorgeous at the end” Robert Sharma

Again, the rapidness of the change can leave employees feeling unsettled, unmotivated and un-productive and business owners need to plan and manage the change effectively.

Companies that do not help employees manage change effectively often:

• Do not plan how the change will affect employees
• Do not have clear lines of communication
• Do not listen to employee views
• Do not evaluate how the change has impacted on their workforce

This is where Delphinus tmc can help!
By employing a Coach who is experienced in change management can be a beneficial plan of action for any businesses to undertake. The role of the Coach is to listen to all business owners and employees and help them individually and as a team to:

• Plan ahead for what the change will actually mean
• Assess skills and training requirements
• Open clear lines of communication
• Work with behaviours and the changing nature of their work-space
• Help prepare employees for the timings of the transition
• Plan for the future to ensure employees have a clear strategy for growth

Remember, employees who feel listened too and empowered are more likely to help an organisation transition and continue to be successful.
To find out more about how Delphinus tmc can help employees manage change more effectively, call us on 07786 936625 or email vicky@delphinustmc.co.uk

Procrastination the Killer of Time…

Thursday, November 19th, 2015

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We spend hours, weeks and years building and honing our skills and abilities to enable us to perform in our roles.   Perfect….training, CPD, away days, building experience and CV…..and then one of our behaviours we’d rather was not around pounces and inhibits our ability to perform……procrastination, indecision….

All of us whatever our role have tasks, jobs, actions which we put off or get round to….or even deny and bury.

“Procrastination is attitudes natural assign. There is nothing so fatiguing than uncompleted tasks” – William James

What if you decided to seize the moment and complete that task…imagine the impact on your energy, attitude and motivation….do that job first and notice the difference it makes.

We all, have a choice on our behaviours and can choose to enable ourselves to be our best and perform in our daily lives.

So here’s the invitation…for the next 10 working days grab a highlighter and highlight the ‘round to it’ jobs, chose to actions those jobs, go for it … Notice the impact the choice to action has on you and your day!

I’ll join you and today I am going to do my filling!

 

Vicky Bailey

07786 936625

vicky@delphinustmc.co.uk

 

Out of my comfort zone – Part 2

Tuesday, September 22nd, 2015

As you think there is no further to reach out of your comfort zone….then it happens! Yes I have been cajoled further outside of my secure sanctuary…the journey continues!

Shoes…so I’ve now experienced makeup, “modelling,” loosing all of my signature comforts and now shoes!

 

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With the Niche Magazine Business awards less than a week away I embarked with a close friend on the ever loaded question…what do I wear?  Which as you can imagine is now even more loaded with my own expectations of make up and appearance!  The dress surprisingly enough was easy…the shoes on the other hand have proved …well… a shock.  I do not do heals well and I really do not do healed shoes well…give me a pair of boots or flip-flops and I am happy!So off I go shopping….and what a lovely experience it turned out to be.  I have to say a massive thank you to Bharti at John Lewis High Cross who demonstrated fantastic customer service, patience and sense of realism and fun. She joyfully embarked on a mission to meet my criteria…not too high, comfortable, classic, and a bit of bling!! Mmmmm.

 

I have to confess there were several pairs of shoes presented which never quite made it out of the box…several which once on my feet never managed to move on the spot for fear of me falling from a great height and several which my main question was why?!?! And some which caused such hilarity and pain at the same time were swiftly returned to their box!On seeing my now fabulous purchase…my first reaction was they look painful…with gently nudge in the right direction I tried them on…..to my surprise they did not hurt! Then the acid test….movement…result I could walk in them (dancing maybe a step too far!). Strike while the iron on is hot…yes please!In a bid to meet my need, Bharti then introduced me to some glitzy slip on ballet shoes which apparently you put in your handbag for when your feet have given up!  Genius!On securing my new shoes (and glitzy slippers) with the added bonus of a reduction in the sale, I left with a spring in my step!So now the real test…my friends thoughts and my girls! I’m not sure jeans and the shoes are look I wanted!  That aside, nervous giggles,  great surprise, shock and then seals of approval flowed.  So why am I soooo nervous still….well it’s a first for me to own such a pair of shoes and the real result will be stepping out in full glitzy dress and shoes and enjoying the James Bond themed evening of the Niche Magazine Business Awards!

 

Deep breathes …lots of positive thinking and dare I say secretly enjoying this renewed feeling of feminine fabulousness!!!  I will keep you updated on the journey of the shoes as they make their debut this Friday eve at the Niche Business Awards!!

Midlife Crisis / Midlife Opportunities – hear us on the radio…

Thursday, July 16th, 2015

On Monday 13th July, Vicky Bailey appeared on BBC Radio Nottingham talking to Sarah Julian about midlife crisis signs and how you can turn it around into a midlife opportunity.  Listen to the full interview here

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BBC Radio Nottingham – Time Management Skills

Friday, December 5th, 2014

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Vicky Bailey recently joined Sarah Julian on BBC Radio Nottingham morning show to talk about Time Management and how we all have choices, especially at this busy period of the year.

Make a choce today to listen to the feature – Vicky Bailey joined Sarah Julian on BBC Radio Nottingham to talk about Time Management and how we all have choices, especially at this busy period of the year – Vicky Bailey, Delphinus tmc – BBC Radio Nottingham feature on Time Management

If you would like further advice on how Delphinus tmc can help you with your Time Management concerns, please call us on 01509 215872

Women into Leadership

Friday, December 13th, 2013

A new and innovative programme targeting Women into Leadership is being launched in 2014


Women into Leadership: Principles

  • A programme focusing on you; for you and about you
  • Exploring the business needs of your organisation and its expectations of you
  • Maximising and developing your natural talents
  • Improving your resilience and ability to manage yourself in challenging situations
  • Building on the latest thinking in leadership

For further information click on http://www.delphinustmc.co.uk/pdfs/women_into_leadership.pdf